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The Importance of Socializing for Moms

A friend and I were discussing the importance of formulating friendships and having a social life when you’re a mom. We both agreed that it’s vital to have girlfriends to talk and vent to on a regular basis, even if it’s with one good friend. Calling, texting, and social networks are okay when a mom is too busy to get together with a friend, but it won’t fulfill her need for socialization for long. As society heads towards more cyber communication, we shouldn’t be satisfied with a non-contact form of socialization only, because it can’t replace the warmth of face-to-face interaction.

As a mom, you work on multiple things all day long. You get in a rut and begin to feel like a hamster on a wheel. You don’t have to reach that point if you set aside some time to meet with a good friend and enjoy the company of others. It’s great for your well-being and will prompt a cheery disposition.

I know from personal experience how despondent I feel when we move to a new town and I don’t know a soul. Fortunately, I rectify this quickly by attending a few nearby social events, visiting the masjid, volunteering somewhere, or setting up a playdate with like-minded moms. It may seem tiresome to get your kids ready to meet new people, but if you hear those negative thoughts – squash it!

Social interactions are beneficial for both you and your children if you meet the right people. You can always learn something from others, no matter who they are or where they are from. Socializing is part of being human, and we go against our nature if we hibernate within ourselves. I understand that some women find it daunting to socialize, so I’m sharing five tips to get you moving to meet new friends:

5 Tips To Socialize and Find Friends

1. Always Make Dua

Allah is Great, and He Gives us what we desire (if it is good for us), so first make dua and ask Him to ease your burdens and help you be in the company of good people.

2. Find a Group

Find an online mom group, homeschool group, or a group you like, and join some like-minded people sharing similar experiences. Participate in a group that has meetups or playdates and isn’t only online. Those will be groups that are unique to your city or surrounding areas.

Most of these groups are selective or request a brief introduction, which gives you some peace of mind. Participating in a group may make you feel uneasy, but after you attend the first meetup it gets easier, and you’ll know if it’s right for you. However, don’t judge the group by the first meetup, unless something was off-putting. Go at least twice before you decide, then look for another group to join if it isn’t the one. I have gained good friendships by joining groups as we relocated to different areas. It didn’t happen at the first meeting either, but after pushing myself to attend a few times.

3. Attend Current Community Events

Going to the masjid or attending family events are great ways to meet people too. If you move to a popular area, there is always some event being held over the course of the year. Sign up for masjid updates or look at the activities link on their website. Different areas have different masjids, and each one should have some event to attend. Once again, try to visit a few times before making a decision.

4. Take Part in Something or Take on a Hobby

Join a spiritual ladies group (halaqa) or participate in a hobby or craft class. Even better, volunteer your time during the evening or on a weekend when your hubby is at home to watch the kids. There is always something you can find by calling the local masjid or school. Join anything that you would enjoy, and in this way, you might meet some friends who share similar interests.

5. Take Initiative

Start your own group or halaqa, if you don’t find a group that meets your needs. If you find your group lacking motivation, organize a potluck at a public park, so you’re not burdened with any preparation. When you initiate and don’t always wait for someone else to begin something, you start to become popular.

You shouldn’t feel guilty for enjoying some girl time. It will make you feel happier as a mother and wife, and your refreshing attitude will show your family how good it is for you. It doesn’t have to be a specific amount of time per month; you can decide what you need and how to work it around your schedule. A mother doesn’t need to be enveloped in her household and parenting issues without an outlet of her own.

I have learned that lasting friendships happen when you give more than you receive, not necessarily in the monetary form, but in your time and support. People are attracted to someone who initiates contact, is reliable, open, honest, kind and dependable. Those traits are the keys to lasting friendships.

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Zakkiya
Founder, author, and designer of Muslimommy. Mom of six from seven to fifteen years of age. My quest is to remind mothers of the blessings of motherhood and provide simple methods to attain relief. My Love for Allah SWT and his beloved Prophet SAW inspire me to spread a peaceful message through the woes of parenthood. Forgive me for any error for only God is Perfect. My writing is a reminder to others, but mostly myself, about the temporary and difficult challenges of this world for an everlasting and beautiful hereafter. Insha'Allah may we meet there someday.
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3 thoughts on “The Importance of Socializing for Moms

  1. Farrah

    Bismillah, MashAllah on your response sister Zakkiya! What if you have tried all of these avenues you suggested but still haven’t found muslims sisters in your area who are new mommies that you would like to relate to and socialize with every now and then? It’s tough when most of the Muslim sister live at least 30 minutes away!

    1. Muslimommy

      Thanks Farah for the kind words. I have been in that situation and all I can say is sometimes you have to find good friends of other faiths that may live closer to you or try to join places where you can do hobbies or crafts once or twice a week to socialize and do something you love. Where I stay I have to sometimes travel around that distance to meet others & it is a small price to pay for the benefit of getting together. It does not feel too bad if you do it once a week or bi-weekly. Inshallah I pray Allah makes it easy for you sister.

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