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Finding Your Purpose as a Muslima

I have learnt over the years that Allah is the only one in control of my life. He SWT controls everything that happens, including the way my children and spouse behave towards me. With this understanding, the events that occur in our lives are either tests or they are an expiation of our sins. If the situation takes you closer to Allah, it’s a test, and if it takes you further from Allah, it’s an expiation. Allah says:

“Whatever of good reaches you, is from Allah, but whatever of evil befalls you, is from yourself…” (al-Nisa 4:79)

Allah also says:

“And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of what your hands have earned. And He pardons much.” (al-Shoora 42:30)

Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

“[It means] whatever misfortune happens to you, O people, is because of evil deeds that you have already done, and ‘He pardons much’ refers to evil deeds – He does not punish you for them but He pardons them. ‘And if Allah were to punish men for that which they earned, he would not leave a moving (living) creature on the surface of the earth…’ (Fatir 35:45 – interpretation of the meaning).”

The Prophet SAW said:

“The extent of the reward will be in accordance with the extent of the trial. If Allah loves a people, He tries them, and whoever is content will have contentment, and whoever is angry will have anger.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 2320; Saheeh al-Jami’, 2210).

When you accept this, you can look at each situation in your life and ponder over the lessons you are supposed to learn and realize that Allah is guiding you. The situation will eventually change and your reaction and perspective to those situations will change as well. This may sound confusing, but if you ask yourself, “What is my purpose in life?” it will all make sense.

Who are you?

You do not belong to anyone. You are not your father’s daughter, your mother’s son, your husband’s wife or your children’s mother. First and foremost you belong to Allah and you were created by Him for a purpose. Your quest in life is to please Him in everything you do in this world. Allah chose this life and your particular situation just for you, and it’s up to you to understand this to gain meaning.

What is your purpose?

You are a slave of Allah, and as His slave, you have two obligations to fulfill as a human being. The first obligation is to Allah. These are the Rights of Allah such as giving zakah, reciting The Qur’an, making salah, performing saum and Hajj, etc. The second obligation is to your fellow-man. These are the Rights of human beings such as respect to parents, spouse, children, community etc. You are required to treat the people in your life as a blessing and an amanah, and with courtesy and kindness. Allah has determined through His Will that these people will be a part of your life, so any friendship or bond you establish should follow the fard and sunnah acts in Islam.

You were not placed in this duniya for enjoyment, but to earn Jannah. You are here to take your partner, children, family and friends with you to Jannah. The duniya is a prison for the believer. It is a place of unrest and agitation and you will not find the absolute peace you seek in this life. You should focus on how you are going to get to Jannah, and more importantly, how can you assist others in this same goal.

What about your earthly life?

It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t tie your camel and search for happiness. You should always seek inner peace first which comes from loving Allah, then His Rasool SAW, and then loving others in your life for His pleasure. The key is to do everything for the sake of Allah only. Then, you should take care of yourself before taking care of others, or you won’t be able to take care of anyone. The Hadith states that kindness is an act of charity and kindness to oneself is also considered an act of charity. It is important to make time for yourself, your prayer, your exercise, your nutrition and sleep, and to find joy in your journey of life.

You should take the time to stop and notice the beauty in your surroundings, enjoy moments with your children, the pleasure of your spouse’s company, and in so many wonderful blessings around you. You shouldn’t become too stressed to be playful and carefree. As a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a neighbour and a community member, you will always know your earthly purpose in this world, but it is important to remember who you are as a Muslima, and what’s your purpose to your Lord. If you find that balance, you will have more meaning in your life and calmness in your heart.

Guest Author: Saajida B. – I’m a daughter, sister, wife, mother, friend, supporter, writer, and entrepreneur, and enjoy cooking old favorites, entertaining and spending time with my mashAllah children. Charity is close to my heart and I make time to assist the less fortunate in my local community. I participate in the Muslim Woman’s Forum and run a support group for Muslim mums of children with chronic conditions, ranging from CHD, pulmonary hypertension, to autism and Downs Syndrome. My motto in life is, “You are exactly where God wants you to be, so bloom where you are planted 🌺.” Be the person who adds value to the lives of others – a word of encouragement, a smile, or a warm cup of tea, can make all the difference for a soul that’s searching for inner peace. Forgive me for any shortcomings in my written works as I am human and prone to error. My knowledge is based on experiences and carved out of our belief system, so unless quoted, all written works are my opinion. I look forward to your interaction.

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6 thoughts on “Finding Your Purpose as a Muslima

  1. aisha yusof

    Beautiful write up sis. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this subject. it gave me a better understanding and idea on MY purpose of life.May Allah swt shower his blessings upon you and your love ones always…ameen

  2. Candra Ayu

    I appreciate what you write about finding purpose. But for your perspective about a situation that it can be test or punishment, I disagree. Actually all things are tests. I remember the quote made by Nouman Ali Khan and his lecture. “Every tests is blessings and every blessings is a test.” Plus about Allah actually doesnt have passion to punish people. He only give them the impact of our wrong physical/seen deed so we can learn. Your that sentences are kinda short and make it scary to a person who dont understand this too much. Even me while I know so little. We never know in actual way about something happen in out of our control, whether He is punishing for that 2 years certain sin or the other time certain sin. Since it is a ghaib stuff. Only Allah knows. I personally not in one word that Allah gives something bad is maybe a punishment. It is His teaching. It is better word for our heart and seeing Allah. Please visit video “Facing Calamity with Iman” by Nouman Ali Khan regarding the out of control misery we may have and the physical/ seen/our own mistake deeds. Jazaakillahu khairan katsiiran. May we are tied in love by Him.

    1. Saajida B.Saajida B.

      It is essential to understand that Allah Ta’ala ordains as He Wills. His every Act is the effect of His Wisdom. Our created minds with imited understanding can never fathom the wisdom and mystery of Allah’s operations. This world is a place of cause and effect. In this world, the general system is that fire will burn and a knife will cut. If a person puts his hand in a fire, and makes much dua that he should not get burnt, he will, according to the system of this world, get burnt. Likewise, if a person consumes a great quantity of poison, and his parents and pious people make dua that he should not die, as per the system of the world he will most likely die. This is the system that Allah Ta’ala created. The very few exceptions where fire did not burn, or the knife did not cut, was the manifestation of the Qudrat of Allah Ta’ala to enhance the belief of the Believers. These were the very rare exceptions. One does not act according to the exceptions. One operates according to the rule.

      If a person plays with matches and then ends up burning himself, we don’t end up questioning taqdeer. We focus on what he was doing and blame him for his folly. So likewise, there are actions that go against the commandments of Allah and there are consequences to these actions. A person may have committed a grave act of injustice and never regretted, repented nor made amends. Then his trials are a punishment in this world, in a way which is bearable to save him from the unbearable punishment in Qiyaamah. Most calamities which befall us, are the consequences of our misdeeds, but we do not understand and we are unable to relate the calamity to any one specific evil which we had committed perhaps 20 or even 40 years ago and may have forgotten about it and never repented.

      However we must never despair of Allah’s Mercy. It is magnanimous. Imam Muslim reported that the prophet (S.A.W.) said:

      “When Allah created the heavens and the earth, he created one hundred mercies, each one can cover what is between the earth and the heaven. He allocated to the earth only one, with which the mother is compassionate with her child; the beast and the bird are compassionate with their babies. When the Day of Judgment comes, Allah will complete His mercy.”

      As a Muslim one should endevour to ask Allah’s Forgiveness for those sins we are aware of and those that we are not aware of. We are human and inclined to sin. Allah is aware of this as He created us. Allah loves the Mu’min that asks for his forgiveness.

      “Indeed Allah loves those who repent and purify themselves.“[Surah Al Baqarah, 2:222]
      One can stay away from sins by practicing self control. This is a reminder to myself before others, in Sha Allah. May Allah keep us on the straight path and grant us the ability to fulfill our responsibility towards Him and this beautiful deen.

      Sister, I hope that I have answered your question. May Allah take us from strength to strength. Ameen.